This experience you’re having….

Is it happening TO you? Or is it happening FOR you?

Last year, I was introduced to a beautiful book called The Little Soul and the Sun by Neal Donald Walsch.

It brought a smile to my face and spoke so much peace to my heart.

The basic concept is this: Before this life, we were all souls living with The Divine. We knew only love and unity.

One soul decides it wants to experience something different and learns this means it will have to leave the Presence of God and take on a Human body. It also means another spirit will need to choose to take on a Human Body and be the one the catalyst for whatever emotion the first spirit hopes to experience.

The emotion the first soul wants to know is forgiveness. This means the second soul will have to do something that the first soul will need to find forgiveness for.

As the two spirits talk about this soul contract, the one is excited about having the experience, and the other has one request. It asks the first soul to remember the divinity they both come from and remind the second soul of this when “the time comes”. This soul knew it would have to forget, or dim, its light in order to cause pain to another.

I love this book. I’ve shared it with a few friends and clients as they’ve struggled to find patience and forgiveness with situations they’ve found themselves in. What, at first glance, seems like a children’s book has a beautiful, deep message for one and all, regardless of age.

It’s pretty common to run into someone and have this “Don’t I know you?” interaction. Perhaps you have a friend or acquaintance you simply feel like you’ve known forever, not just in the current lifetime.

I think of these as souls we’ve known before this Earthly Human existence. Souls we spent time with, loved, and made contracts with.

Soul contracts aren’t a new concept to me. I’ve always believed we had a pre-earth life and that in that time we chose our family units and the experiences we would undertake while here on Earth. Personally, I take it a step further and believe we’ve lived multiple lives, and each time we learn and grow ever more. It’s like going to school and moving through the grades as we gain knowledge with an ultimate goal of being LOVE. For how can you BE love if you haven’t experienced every other thought, emotion, and existence that is not love?

I’ve been reading books and connecting with more deeply spiritual people. I’ve been experiencing my own heart shift and awareness. Everything seems so intertwined and connected. They come together like a dot-to-dot picture, one leading to the next as a beautiful picture begins to emerge.

This picture illustrates how Every. Single. Experience. we have is an opportunity for us to learn something. I think about comments made or actions taken that I respond to with prickly and irritable energy. What emotions am I experiencing and what beliefs am I butting up against when something unpleasant comes up?

In the book, the soul wanted to experience forgiveness. Another Soul chose to come to this earth to help them fulfill that wish and desire.

If this is the case and we have contracts with other souls to learn and grow from our interactions… doesn’t that mean whatever happens is for us instead of to us? For our growth and improvement?

Think about it.

What can I learn from this moment?

If I react with anger and intensity, I’m holding on to a belief that I’m right and a victim in a situation. “They did something wrong to me.”

If we ask what we can learn from the interaction, or how it is for us, how do things change? What can you learn?

Here’s an example. You ask your partner to _________ (Fill in the blank. Take out the trash, empty the dishwasher…) Your partner says “sure.”

You run to an appointment and come back only to find the request has not been taken care of.

In this moment, a myriad of things may go through your head. None of them were kind or positive, and most aimed at the other person. You may even think, “I always have to do everything. If I don’t take care of things, then they just won’t get done.”

If you ask, “How is this serving me?”, how does it change?  Perhaps you’ll see this is a mantra throughout your life, and you expect people to let you down. Maybe you expect to be the one doing things without assistance. And maybe this is a soul contract you chose to learn. How to heal that belief and create a new one.

Additionally, perhaps adding a timeframe would have negated any upset in the first place. Asking someone to do something without a time attached means they get to do it when they want to, which isn’t necessarily in agreement with what you were thinking.

Perhaps clearer communication is the lesson you get to learn, and your relationships will change from there.

I’m learning to let go of control.

I’m learning that I actually AM enough.

I’m learning patience.

I’m learning how to quiet that not-so-kind voice in my head.

I’m learning I’m worthy of my own love.

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I’m learning__________ fill in the blank.

I’m learning how to accept the present instead of fighting the past or future.

Pausing to ask, “Is this happening to me or for me?” has been a wonderful exercise I’ve been employing over the last while. It truly has been wonderful to watch the shifts in how I interact with different people.

Play around with it and let me know how it works for you too<3

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With Much Love,

Krystal

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