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14: Meditation to Check In and Ask, “How Am I, Really?”

“Hey, how are you?” / “Good, how are you?” / “Good.”

This dialogue is so common these days. But how often do you stop yourself and ask someone, “How are you, really?” It’s a subtle shift that makes a big difference. This week, Krystal walks us through a short and sweet guided meditation to help you check in and ask yourself, “How am I, really?”


Think meditation is hard? Do me a favor, take a slow deep breath in, and now breathe out. Congratulations, you just meditated. Hi, I’m Krystal Jakosky and this is Breathe In, Breathe Out, a weekly mindfulness and meditation podcast for anyone ready to own their own shit and find a little peace while doing it.

This gigantic bear that I am snuggled with is my co-host. He keeps my head in place and his name is Beary Styles. We named him a little bit after Harry Styles, because we think he is so fabulous and so grateful that Harry is bringing forth such transformation and change.

Welcome back to Breathe In, Breathe Out. I’m Krystal Jakosky and last week we talked about truth in sarcasm and the idea of how are you really, the concept of checking in with your own emotions and body and understanding how am I in this moment and what do I need to do or express.

This week I would like to just kind of do a guided meditation, but in the same aspect, it’s more like a scan. This is an opportunity for you to check in. These are the questions that you might ask or the way that you might check in with yourself when someone says, “How are you really? Let me check for a second.”

When someone says, “So how are you really?” First take a deep breath, and then slowly let it out. Let your mind settle into the question. Deep breath in, and then out. 

How is your mind? Is it running? Is it turning? Are there several things for you to do? Are you overwhelmed? Are you a little down? How is your mind?

Take a minute to understand that. A deep breath, and then you let it go. Is that what you need to express to this person? Take another deep breath and then move to your shoulders. Are they hunched up around your neck? Or are they low and solid? Are you carrying a lot of weight and stress? Deep breath in. Let them relax as you exhale. Is this weight what needs to be expressed?

On your next deep inhale, move down to your heart and your throat and your emotions. How do you feel here? Is your heart light and excited, or is it slightly weighed down? Is there a challenge? Is there a knot in your throat preventing you from speaking your truth? Is there an ache? Take a moment to check in as you breathe deeply again. And on the exhale, do these emotions need to be shared, expressed and moved forward?

Another deep breath, move down to your belly and your back, your core. Does it feel solid and balanced or is it feeling weak and challenged? What do you need here? What kind of support?

You take another one in. Check in with your legs and your feet? Do they feel stuck or do they feel free moving, as though you can move forward on whatever project or challenges are before you? What needs to be expressed there?

Now, as you finish checking in, take one more deep, deep breath in all the way through and feel that oxygen just feed every cell of your being. Then exhale and let it relax just a little bit, just enough to be able to express to yourself and to the person asking how are you really, what needs to be expressed? What needs to be said to connect with the person before you, whether that be yourself in the mirror or another beautiful human being?

Take another deep breath and feel your body. Feel all of those muscles that work together and help you move around, that help propel you forward through life and digest all the food and all of the everything that you send at it. Move forward, connected, aware, and a beautifully emotional being in every way, shape and possible.

Thanks for connecting with yourself. Thanks for checking in. I look forward to being with you again next time here on Breathe In, Breathe Out.

I hope this moment of self-care and healing brought you some hope and peace. I’m @KrystalJakosky on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube, and I hope you check us out and follow along for more content coming soon. I look forward to being with you again here on Breathe In, Breathe Out. Until next time, take care.

Breathe In, Breathe Out is a weekly mindfulness and meditation podcast hosted by yours truly, Krystal Jakosky. Each week, we’ll release a brand new lesson or meditation focused on helping you navigate your life by giving YOU the tools to become your own healer.

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