The most recent Sacred Circle was so beautiful and powerful.

As Rev. Rachel and I prepared for the morning, we felt a strong pull to move away from the “I need to keep healing” mentality and into “I am whole.”

Let me explain.

For those of us seeking something deeper and more connected, we often discover wounds and unresolved issues. We heal one area only to uncover another. Old spiritual or religious beliefs, generational trauma and lack, societal pressures, and adopted assumptions all combine to create a box we live inside. At some point, we realize this box—no longer conducive to the life we truly want—must change. While we adopted these beliefs from external sources, the power to transform them comes only from within.

We must take the time to see them clearly, feel how they fit (or don’t), and decide whether to adjust or release the weight they carry. Sometimes a belief simply needs a little alteration—like hemming a pair of pants—because it holds a kernel of truth and isn’t overly confining.

Other times, a belief becomes suffocating and oppressive, limiting our ability to move and breathe freely. In those cases, it may be time to let go of the entire outfit and find something far more comfortable to live in.

I’ve helped many people shed these old costumes and outer shells. Together, we’ve done the deep work to reconnect with our inner light and the joy of living true to Self. We’ve learned to embrace what lives in our soul rather than what we’ve been taught or expected to emulate.

I love this work. I love guiding clients as they retrieve soul fragments and stand stronger in their own choices, creating a life they genuinely love.

And yet, in this vein, there’s a potential to settle into the cycle of change itself. “I healed that part and it feels so good to be more me!” We go through a bit of life and hit another hiccup which means a new inspiring spiritual upload. We ride the ups and downs while simultaneously wondering when we’ll find peace and tranquility. 

At what point do we get to declare that we feel whole and complete?

At what point do we choose peace and hold the vision of ourselves already living in that space?

If we continually believe we need fixing, when do we finally shift into wholeness?

I’ve said it before: what we focus on grows. If we keep focusing on what needs healing, won’t we always find more to heal? But if we focus on our inherent wholeness, doesn’t that wholeness expand?

It’s so similar to the chase for success, finances, or joy:

“I’ll be happy when…”

“I’ll be successful when…”

“I’ll find peace when…”

It’s always someday. Always in the future. Never here and now.

In our Sacred Circle, I led a beautiful guided meditation around this very theme. We had been discussing old wounds and the endless pursuit of wholeness. We explored the different masks and personas we wear with different people, and how disorienting it can feel when we’re unsure which version of ourselves is truly authentic—or whether it’s even safe to be that authentic.

The meditation guided us to gently shed those outer personas, along with their wounds and challenges. We removed the masks and cloaks to reveal the whole, radiant spirit within—the core being that animates every other “costume.”

Recognizing that we are this being is foundational to our ascension. We are whole. All the other personas and states of being simply offer us opportunities to learn and experience life as humans. Through them we feel, connect, love, and sometimes clash. Our responses reveal which state we’re living from: wholeness or wounding.

I’m sharing this meditation with you today in the hope that it opens you as beautifully as it opened us in Sacred Circle. I pray it helps you stop reaching for wholeness and instead embrace the wholeness that already lives within you.