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83: The Importance of Maintaining Individuality in Relationships

Every human has a myriad of facets – the interesting things and angles which make up who you are, what you like, what you believe, how you view the world, etc. These facets mean we all have depth and dimensions to our personalities and attitudes. Maintaining our facets means we have endless opportunities to connect with our partner.

To learn more about the importance of maintaining your facets in your relationship, tune into this week’s episode of Breathe In, Breathe Out!


Think meditation is hard. Do me a favor, take a slow, deep breath in, and now breathe out. Congratulations, you just meditated. Hi, I’m Krystal Jacosky, and this is Breathe In. Breathe out a weekly mindfulness and meditation podcast for anyone ready to own their own shit and find a little peaceful while doing it.  

Krystal Jakosky:   Welcome back to Breathe In, Breathe Out. I’m Krystal Jacosky and I’m really excited to share this week’s episode with you. I first met Kevin Pinnell when I was a guest on his podcast, which is Award A Better Life. It was such a delightful experience. We had so many things in common that I really wanted to bring him on my podcast so that we could talk about the indigenous people. Kevin began his journey with the indigenous people of North America in the early nineties. He met Ken two feathers early on in that journey, and Ken Two Feathers became more than Kevin’s teacher. They had a wonderful friendship. And 10 years into that friendship, Kevin wrote the book, Two Feathers, Spiritual Seed Planter as Kevin Laughing Hawk, which addressed two feathers life and Native American spirituality. There is so much more to his experience and his life. This is just the tip of the proverbial iceberg. We’re going to talk about some of the keynotes of Kevin’s experience. I really hope that you enjoy listening as much as I enjoyed having him on my podcast. Hello, and welcome back to Breathe In, Breathe Out. I’m Krystal Jakosky, your host, and I am so excited to have Kevin on our show today. Kevin Cannell, welcome.  

Kevin Pennell:    Thank you. Great to be here. This is awesome. I’ve switched roles for a change. I’m not a host. I’m actually a guest. 

Krystal Jakosky:    Oh, isn’t that fun? When you get to switch it up a little bit. Kevin and I have actually been recording right now because whenever we have the opportunity to chat, Kevin and I go off on so many different tangents and so many different realms, and it’s because we are both interested in so many different things. We are always looking for something new to learn or something new to teach, which means that we have a plethora of things that we can talk about and go down rabbit hole after rabbit hole after rabbit hole. So we’re going to make an effort to keep this a little shorter, meaning not four hours long, because we could talk for hours.

Kevin Pennell:    We’re going to try to focus.  

Krystal Jakosky:    We’re going to give it the college try, you know, the good college. Not the one where you smoke pot for the first four years and then decide to do college. We’re going to actually try to focus. Welcome to my world today. Kevin, tell us a little bit about yourself, who you are and what brought you to my podcast studio.  

Kevin Pennell:    Oh my goodness. Well, if you got about two or three hours, hang in there. It’s just actually been about a year ago that I decided, I’m going to try doing a podcast because for 35 years off and on, I was in broadcast journalism and radio. So I just have a lot of fun with it. And I published a book, worked on a couple of other books, and did some magazine articles. I love to write, but for whatever reason, the publisher just wasn’t impressed. Okay, this is great, but you’re not going to publish it. It’s good stuff, but we’re not going to publish it. And I’m going, Yeah, fine, whatever. And I realized part of writing is you have to be able to accept a little two letter word called no.  

Oh, that’s standard procedure. And I just, in one of those moments, I said, you know, I did broadcast journalism and I did human interest stories for years. I really enjoy doing that, just listening and talking with people about their lives. And literally, I think it was like 3:30 or 4:30 in the morning. That tends to be what I call my spirit time. Some of the most significant little truths that I’ve ever had. The title for the book that I wrote came to me in the middle of the night. And when I wrote that book, I wrote it from five o’clock in the morning until 6:30 every day until I got done with it. But that’s my spirit time. This time it came through as you need to do a podcast called Toward a Better Life.  

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Think meditation is hard? Do me a favor, take a slow deep breath in and now breathe out. Congratulations, you just meditated. Hi, I’m Krystal Jakosky, and this is Breathe In, Breathe Out: a Weekly Mindfulness and Meditation podcast for anyone ready to own their own shit and find a little peace while doing it.

Welcome back to Breathe In, Breathe Out. I’m Krystal Jakosky and hello. <laugh> I’m glad that you’re here. This life is such a beautiful journey and it is filled with so many wonderful experiences and lessons and just people it’s fascinating and beautiful. And I’m so grateful that I can learn so much from so many different people. I’m so grateful that we’re all different and unique. I love learning something from a different perspective because I’m talking with a friend or a new acquaintance, and I find out that they have a completely different point of view on some, whatever it is that than I do. And I get to listen, I get to learn. And then I get to question, well, why do I have that opinion? Why do I have that point of view and what needs to shift from there? Maybe my opinion and point of view are wrong. Thank you for challenging me. Thank you for talking with me and opening up my mind so that I can be even better as a human being so that I can be more compassionate and understanding because my experience is not the end all be all. Y’all no one else had my experience, which means it’s unique to me. And that means yours is unique to you, which is just so cool. It’s just, that it’s mind-boggling and beautiful. And I, I love it. I absolutely love it. I think this world would be so unbelievably boring if we all had the exact same experiences and I mean  

Where would we go from there? How would we learn and shift? How would we know about compromise or I just, can’t even fathom it. And so I love how we are. I love who we are. I love that we’re so unique and different. And, and, um, it brings me to, I mean, I’ve gone down a rabbit hole mentally a couple of times on this. And so I’m, I’m excited to be talking about it with you right now. And it’s about maintaining your uniqueness in this world. It’s about standing strong in your experiences and at the same aspect, I’m not telling you that you have to just be you. I think it’s really good for all of us to be slightly pliable and teachable and willing to learn, willing to challenge the concepts that are out there and the beliefs that are out there.  

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